Thursday, March 24, 2005

Paper- Dominant value


After reflecting on what my dominant value is, I came to realize that it is the value of close family ties, as what is present in most Filipinos. This is my dominant value because I believe that maintaining a peaceful and harmonious relationship within the family radiates to its environs. I believe that genuine affection, concern and love among family members reflect each in the way they deal with the outside world including events, circumstances, scenery, conditions, people, and objects. My goal is to live my life to the fullest, living a comfortable life and being able to help people in need.

Despite the many challenges posed against the family, Filipinos look up to the family as their source of strength in moments of difficulties. While it has been observed that the Filipino family is in the verge of breakdown due to many factors, many Filipinos still maintain the family as the basic unit of society, and I am one of them. Concern for family is manifested in the honor and respect given to parents and elders, in the care given to children, the generosity towards kin in need, and in the great sacrifices one endures for the welfare of the family. This sense of family results in a feeling of belonging or rootedness and in a basic sense of security.

We make choices and decisions based on our values. Let me discuss some decisions which I made based on my dominant value. First is my choice of school in college. It has never occurred to me that I would like to be independent and study outside Davao City. This is because I do not want to leave my family behind and financially overburden them to support my studies. After finishing college, though there were offers for me to work abroad, my decision was still to work in Davao City. This is because I am the only one among my siblings who is left with my old parents. Leaving them alone is something which I couldn’t afford that time, even until I got married.

Being one with close family ties may have its advantages and disadvantages. One of its disadvantages is that it limits the opportunity for growth of a person. There is a vast of opportunities outside his hometown for one who is educated and capable. Being in tact with the family constricts this opportunity. While concern for the family is one of the Filipino's greatest strengths, in the extreme it becomes a serious flaw. Excessive concern for the family creates an in-group to which the Filipino is fiercely loyal, to the detriment of concern for the larger community or the common good.

So where does this value lead me? It still is leading me towards attaining my goal of living my life to the fullest. However, everything should be done in moderation. And I should live a balanced life towards my family, friends and career. But most of all, I should live with the Almighty as the center of my life.